A man who is serious about you, and really means what he says won’t have this problem, even when he has bad days, because he’s sincerely on your side. A man who is falling in love with you will value your family like his own, and have no problems with your friends. There’s nothing more valuable for a woman inside of a relationship than a man falling in love with her. Coffee brought to you in the morning, offering to rub your back or run your bath, a surprise bunch of flowers or chocolates – all little signs that he loves you and wants to make you happy.

Protective instincts are a window into a man’s romantic feelings. Put simply, if he’s going out of his way to protect you, then he probably loves you (even if he’s not saying it). He’s afraid that he might change as a person or lose his individuality should he decide to commit to one person, even if he’s never loved anyone more than you.

We don’t spend every waking moment together and it’s okay. He does everything that you spoke about in this video and this make me super happy. Haha I’ll be checking out the rest of your videos. He knows that you are capable of anything that you set your mind to. He knows that you are powerful, strong and beautiful. He loves you for your own kind of person and he doesn’t ever want you to change.

The reality of love is that the right person will make you want to be stronger and see your potential, not assess you like a product in a grocery store. Accepting the idea that they’re not enough for you as a reason for disappearing from your life is more or less possible. Whether in their own imagination or because of real challenges or shortcomings, they embrace this idea that they are insufficient or flawed and not what you need. Really, the most you can do is show him that you’re there for him and go about your life and meet someone new, if and unless he opens up once again. It isn’t always some grand, complex thing or that he’s a player who just wants to use you. It could be that he was a bit interested but then quickly realized he wasn’t actually into you.

With that in mind, here are a few things to do if he jumped the gun and said I love you too soon. You don’t just want to tell them how you feel, you want to share those feelings with everyone you know. You’re curious about all aspects of your partner. That includes their past relationships, family, childhood, present likes and dislikes, and future goals and plans. These changing hormone levels can leave you feeling energized, even though you might have less appetite or need for sleep. You might also feel euphoric, or lightheaded and excited, at the merest thought of the person you’ve fallen for.

You don’t need a man who is scared of protecting you because he can’t stand up for himself. If your partner doesn’t protect you, this is a red flag. If you feel like you are dating a man who has nothing to offer, it might be because there is someone else.

And he feels very strongly in different ways about one or more of these topics in a way that directly clashes with you. When a guy only wants the thrill of the chase, it’s his own issue. He recently met another woman who’s not as “hot,” but who stimulates him far more in terms of datingsimplified his sense of humor and intellect. This relates to the previous reason, and it’s actually quite common. This is a very hard issue to overcome because you can’t force someone to come out of their shell. And the answer can only come from him if he’s willing to talk to you again.

He’s proud of you (and isn’t afraid to show it).

The problem is that so many women get caught in a trap of trying to figure out why. He doesn’t want to lose you, but can’t give you the commitment you want. Now I’m not saying there isn’t any validity here. Sometimes, a man does need to be more settled before he can get married.

They think you’re not compatible

But it’s worth it to try and open up a discussion, to see if they are. This article was originally published at Thought Catalog. Space is an excuse for them to gradually leave you. Well actually, most often it’s no longer gradual. Once they ask for space today, they’re gone forever. You’ll seem like a person who has entertained a disguised stranger inside your house only to find out it’s a thief who will disappear after taking everything away from you.

Even if he feels like he’s so in love with you and he can’t live without you, his brain may be telling him, “Hey, chill out a little bit. It’s too soon for you to be feeling this way.” If he allows his brain to override his emotions, then getting him to say I love you will not be an easy feat. As two people spend more time with each other, comfort levels build, and sometimes the need to impress declines sharply.

“Not all couples reach these milestones after year one,” Joshua Klapow, PhD, clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, tells Bustle. But of course, you won’t believe that right away. The sentence itself should already make you question, what happened with his previous dates? And you should wonder how it feels if you were one of the girls in his past and you heard him say this to another, or how many times has he used this sentence as a bait. The best relationships are based on people who have the same feelings for each other, but unfortunately, not every relationship is that way.

According to her, it may take some time to get used to each other’s communication styles. But in the early stages, it’s especially important to check in and show some investment in the new relationship. If you’re unsure of your partner’s level of interest, Pfannenstiel suggests matching the level of communication they give you. If they’re barely communicating, it’s time to have a discussion about it. At the beginning of a relationship, texting, calling, and messaging might happen often. Maybe it’s because he’s incapable of liking someone past a certain point , or maybe he just doesn’t see himself with someone like you for reasons beyond your control.

You can’t bring out his inner hero

You might feel a bond forming, and you may want to nurture it long term. The study authors suggest that women may trust a confession of love less when it comes before sexual intimacy, since they might consider it a less-than-honest means of getting sex. While men tended to consider confessions of love acceptable after about a month or so, women tended to say it was better to wait 2 to 3 months or so. Maybe you feel those words bubbling up whenever you’re around the person, and you find yourself pressing your lips firmly closed to hold them back.